Mentoring Guide
Mentoring should be enriching for both mentor and mentee. It is about learning and not teaching. Download and review our Mentoring Guide for more details
Find Out MoreMentoring is a partnership between an employee and his or her supervisor. Even though there is an inequality in the skills, experience and knowledge of the partners, the partnership itself is equal. Both parties agree to the relationship and both parties agree to its success.
The partnership is collaborative with both mentor and mentee working together to decide what the partnership hopes to achieve and how it hopes to achieve those aims.
Mentoring as a concept:
M – Manages the relationship
E – Encourages
N – Nurtures
T – Teaches
O – Offers mutual respect
R – Responds to the mentees needs
Collaboration
Mentoring should be enriching for both mentor and mentee. It is about learning and not teaching. The mentee is empowered to take responsibility for his/her own actions
Relationship
Mentoring is a partnership between two individuals and the focus is not to make mentee dependent but to develop mentees independent critical thinking.
Find the right person for your needs; someone who is working in a job or sector that you're interested in. A helpful mentor to have is someone who is two or three levels above you. Don’t expect someone in a high-level leadership role, like the CEO of a large company, to immediately agree to be your mentor.
1. Meet consistently
Figure out how often (i.e. once a week or once a month), how long (i.e. half hour or one hour) and how you want to meet and make it consistent. In-person or over video conference is a good start.
2. Let the relationship evolve organically
Mentoring is organic. It’s healthy to let it grow like any other relationship — over time and based on mutual respect and trust. Don’t force it. Give it time; it needs to grow.
3. Take the initiative
Don’t wait for the mentor to initiate your meetings and don't be afraid to propose a meeting yourself! Ask for more of your mentor without demanding it.
4. Be organised
Before each meeting, send your mentor an agenda. Take notes as you're meeting so that you can follow up via email. Keep the meetings as brief as possible.
5. Decide on an end date.
Based on how long those short-term goals will take to achieve, decide how long you want the mentorship relationship to last. A good rule of thumb is usually approximately six months but some partnerships go for much longer so long as both parties are happy to continue.
6. Evaluate the mentoring
After meeting, consider: did you get something from it? Did you leave the meeting feeling better about yourself? If it went well, then immediately put together a follow-up plan. If it’s not working out, that’s OK too.
7. Follow up after each meeting
It’s appropriate to follow up immediately via email, thanking your prospective mentor for their time.
8. Don’t quit when you feel challenged
You’ll get to a point where your mentor may feel comfortable enough to challenge you. Remember: it’s not supposed to be easy and this is where the good stuff happens.
9. Ask for feedback
Be open to feedback: positive or constructive. As your relationship with your mentor progresses, this will be the #1 way you grow. A good mentor will treat these times with great care and sensitivity.
10. Consider having more than one mentor
No one mentor can help you achieve all of your goals. Maybe one mentor can help you consider a path to a particular career; another can help with specific technical skills etc.
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