Positive Parenting During and After Separation

Positive parenting during a separation is challenging but is of crucial importance to maintaining good relationships, both between ex-partners and between parents and children.

Positive parenting encourages and depends upon ongoing amicable dealings between the parents. This provides children with stability and security and allows for close relationships with both parents.

Trying to negotiate parenting arrangements after a relationship breakup can be challenging. It is almost invariably difficult for parties to a broken relationship to communicate positively.

In spite of the issues that may have arisen, it will be necessary for both parties to move on from the pain and/or ill feeling that have underscored the breakdown. It is important to create a positive environment for the children in the context of collections and drop-offs and during shared decision-making.

Regardless of whether in person, by telephone or through electronic communications, this will need to be approached maturely and with a view to resolution, not conflict. Peaceful and effective communications between ex-partners will have the most positive influence on the children’s wellbeing during this time.

Resources

  • Survival Plan for Parents in the Divorce and Separation Process: This publication from the Law Society of Ireland seeks to advise parents who are going through the separation or divorce process. It provides information from a child’s perspective as well as an insight into mediation, solicitor-client consultations, and the court application process. In addition, it supplies some recommended reading and relevant support service contact details.
  • Parenting Positively - Coping with Separation for children aged 6 to 12: This Barnardos and Family Support Agency Publication (2007) is the second document and it is intended to be read with children. It contains both text and illustrations to assist in the explanation of the meaning and process of separation and prompts an understanding of the impact of such circumstances upon a child. It deals with how your child might be feeling and provides advice as to means of assisting children to cope with the circumstances.
  • Parenting Positively - Helping Teenagers to cope with Separation: This Barnardos and Family Support Agency Publication deals with the development stages of teenagers and outlines how separation may impact them. How to communicate with teenagers and with each other as parents is also dealt with. Telephone numbers for helpful resources and recommended reading are also included.
  • Rainbows: is a nationwide listening service for children who are dealing with significant loss or change in their lives. It is run in centres and in primary and secondary schools.
  • Barnardos: provides support, advice and information for teenagers.

Contacts

Organisation TelephoneEmailWebsiteAddress
One Family

Lo-call1890 66 22 12   

Tel: 01 6629212

info@onefamily.ie www.onefamily.ie Cherish House, 2 Lower Pembroke Street, Dublin 2
Child and Family Agency - Tusla (01) 771 8500

info@tusla.ie

www.tusla.ie Child and Family Agency, Floors 2 – 5, Brunel Building, Heuston South Quarter, Dublin 8

Family Law Information Research Group

School of Law, Áras na Laoi, University College Cork,

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